Wow, what a day! Early this morning I received an email (through theAncestry.com site) from someone researching my mother (she died in 1993). This person had the same surname as my mother's maiden name and he told me the name of his father. I responded that I wasn't familiar with his name or his fathers and asked why he wanted information about my mother. Numerous emails later, carefully worded on his part, I still didn't know what relationship he or his father had with my mother. I suspected it might be something that he thought might upset me. I asked him straight out what their relationship was and not to be afraid to tell me as I would not be upset.
So, here in his own words, is the explanation:
"Hi Fay Whilst your mother was working at xxx (approx. 1937), she fell pregnant (On December 26th that year she gave birth to my father at the children hospital on City Road). Being very young and unable to look after him she put him into foster care in the belief she would later be able to look after him. The war and other factors played a part, but they stayed in touch until he was twenty one. He occasionally worked in a shop connected to your father? but wasn't allowed to tell anyone who he was when he was a teenager somewhere on /near xxx. Shortly after/around his Twenty first birthday my father got engaged to my mother and introduced her to your mother, the meeting did not go well (as my mother had an incapacity to understand the situation). So basically he was a half brother to you and yes I was concerned about telling you. But I am glad I have, I hope you are too Kindest regards xxx"
Several emails later we exchanged contact details and I called him. We spoke for about 45 minutes. He is overjoyed to find his grandmother's family as he has no knowledge or contact with any family on his father's side. He has 2 sisters and one brother and the fours siblings have 11 children between them So I have gained 15 relatives in one day!